wow - I don't think Ive ever gotten so much advice and ideas from so many amazing women as today on twitter :) thank you all for your opinions!
Here's the situation - I recently moved away from my college town, where many of my friends are. I now live in a small town outside of ATL. I have a few friends from HS in ATL but not too many. My birthday is coming up (in early October) and its my first grown up birthday, so I wanted to have a grown up party. I was thinking of hosting a nice dinner at a restaurant in ATL, nothing too $$ as my friends are young and mostly in school. I would be inviting friends from my college town up to ATL (and hosting them at my parents house, so no one would have to get a hotel room) and inviting my local friends. The big question I have is, if we all go out to dinner somewhere for my birthday, am I expected to pay for everyone?
Knowing ATL can be a little pricey, I am considering having a party closer to my college town, like somewhere in SAV. but if I do that, I know the ATL girls will not make the drive (they would say its too far - even if I could find places for them to stay). Would it be better if I had 2 parties, one in ATL and one near my college town?
I have girls telling me if I am "hosting" the "party" it means paper invitations and me footing the bill, but others saying because we're young, and its my birthday, everyone would pay their own way.
Another issue is many of the guests were at my graduation lunch, which my parents graciously paid for, and I don't want anyone to come to this one expecting that, as my parents wont be there.
I am looking to send out an evite to the guests in the next few days so they can save the date (I want to make sure as many people can come as possible since most years my birthday is a flop). I also want to send some cute, hand written invites because I am now obsessed with stationary
Any and all advice will be welcomed! I am really at a loss as what to do here.
**ugh! more drama! I have decided to simply have 2 dinners, one in ATL and one in my old college town. Just easier and cuts down on the driving.
I asked my bff in ATL to host the party and she said no, giving some BS reason :( very upset about this. I told her she was simply going to be getting the RSVPs, helping me organize and maybe say something nice at dinner. But she hasn't replied. Im feeling really hurt by this. I wasn't asking her to pay for anything but her meal.
The I asked another girlfriend in the college town to host my dinner there, in SAV (about an hour drive). The plan was for me and JAB to get a hotel room in SAV and have everyone come down, have dinner then go out for a few drinks. But she thinks (and rightly so) no one will want to spend the $$ to drive to SAV to celebrate or pay for a hotel. So I either have to have the party in college town, or not have it at all. I am so annoyed! I just want to have a good birthday! I am at the point right now where Im just going to ask ppl to send gifts and JAB & I will go on a weekend trip.