We I guess I'm off the single band wagon. Ryan asked me to be his girlfriend this past saturday night. Now mind you this was after a day of drinking at the beach, a double crown & coke at dinner & 2 large wet willies, so he might have not realized what he was doing. lol. I waited till sunday, about 12.05am to say yes just to keep him on his toes. I even asked twitter :)
So now that I'm a girl friend, I'll be spending even more time in the car so Im gonna need some good books on CD to keep me awake. What fun, easy reads have you read lately that you can recommend?
Mawwiage... aka marriage. I'm sure your wondering why a perpetually single girl is doing writing about a topic like marriage. what could she possibly know about marriage?
truth - nothing, I'm not married. & I wont be for a long time. But what I am an expert on is married couples from the view of a single girl.
Let's back up to middle school. Remember when you would sit around and talk about your wedding, but you still thought boys were yucky? Well my friends & I always said we would abandon our husbands for our girlfriends. Moving on to high school, we discovered boys but didn't date much so they were still these foreign creatures. And it was still girls before guys. Then college. Dating begins. And guys become the most important thing in your life. Dating them, flirting with them, all the fun stuff. At some point those boys became more important then friends until you got dumped, then it was girl power all the way.
Now begins life after college. I'm single. I love my friends. I love my friends who are single, who are dating and even the handful I have who are already married. I love hanging out with them in groups, one on one, two on one, whatever. I view my friend's man as part of my friends. I figure if its that serious they need to become part of the group.
I have a few friends who don't see life like that. They only want to spend time with their boyfriend, never their friends. We aren't even on the back burner, we dont exists when hes around. And I HATE that! It drives me up the wall! If hes such an amazing guy he should fit in with your friends and be part of the group. Now I'm not saying never have alone time, but don't cut yourself off from the world because of some guy! If he is going to be your husband isn't it important that your friends like him? I know whats a major factor when I'm seeing someone.
So fast forward a few years to the wedding. They get married, we all cry and hug and congratulate. Now he and she have become a them. They're married. Excellent. I have some amazing married friends (shout outs to y'all).
But recently I was informed that because I am a single female, I really cant be friends with married women. Not because she thinks I'm trying to hook her husband, but because we have different priorities.
This is CRAZY! CRAZY!
We all make life choices, you chose to get married at 23. I chose to not get married. I chose to live at home and work and plan for grad school and date and travel. I have one priority in life, and that's me. My friends & family are a close second. I understand that your husband is your main priority, and that's great, but someone please explain to me why that means we cant be friends?
I have a LOT of married friends. I even have friends who are married with kids. They have VERY different prioritries in life then I do and yet they still want to be friends with me. Maybe because Im on the outside looking in, maybe there isn't something I see. Maybe their was a vow that I missed at the wedding - "now that you are married you will abandon all single friends"
Many of my readers are young married women, do y'all have single friends? Do y'all find it difficult to have friendships with single people?
If there's something I'm missing, like a new rule or something, please let me know. I'll make a point to let all my married friends know that we cant be friends because I am choosing an "alternative lifestyle".
I know just posting a tone of photos and not actually saying anything is a major cop out, I know this. But im gonna do it anyway, so nani nani boo boo
Ryan floating
Smile
The view from the towel
Holding hands
Juts love this pic
Beautiful day
Cool effect
Thinking about something... food
Ryan the matador
Beach pic!
Pack Mule
They were so tired
OK OK OK so your wondering who this Ryan guy is. He's the guy I'm dating. It almost feels weird to say that, its been so long since Ive actually dated a real man. Hes really sweet, funny, kind & smart. Its like hanging out with a really good friend who I can kiss when I want to, which is really nice. We're taking things slow because he's still at GSU finishing up college. He's looking for a job in the south east so I'm hoping he moves to Atlanta as I'm so over long distance things, but whatever happens, happens. It feels really good to be in this kinda grown up relationship.
Now the fact that he's drunk on a random Monday night... well I guess its forgivable. But just this once.
Y'all I have been a terrible blogger! I have been so crazy busy & stressed but now Im back home, and Im a little more relaxed. I wanted to post some photos for semi wordless Wednesday & wedding Wednesday!
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