tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-102026941638292262.post2406749281399935538..comments2023-05-17T02:36:56.301-07:00Comments on ATLANTA YANKEE BELLE: The Big L WordAtlYankeeBellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02856258758077090168noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-102026941638292262.post-84340647490128370652011-07-12T10:44:57.055-07:002011-07-12T10:44:57.055-07:00I found your blog today and have read a few of you...I found your blog today and have read a few of your previous posts. While I may not know everything, I've been in long distance realtionships before and I've been in hurtful relationships as well. I know the driving every weekend thing gets expensive, but sometimes things like Skype or even email, texting and phone calls can help cut down the gas bill. From your posts he seems like an awesome guy and you seem way too happy to give up on the relationship already. I know its hard, but even limiting yourself to two trips a month helps some. As they say "absenece makes the heart grow fonder" Good luck :)Alliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02536657028663014608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-102026941638292262.post-17761745485868187102011-07-12T10:41:26.882-07:002011-07-12T10:41:26.882-07:00Oh, my - I could write a novel about this!
First ...Oh, my - I could write a novel about this!<br /><br />First off, KR spent 2 *years* in Europe while I was in IL. That's like... 6000 miles or so. Farther when I was at my mom's house for school breaks. And we were LDR (as you say, haha) while he did boot camp & tech training. And now we're apart, AGAIN while he's off doing his duty. Here's what you have to realize about LDR: Distance means nothing! Whether it's 45 minutes, 2 hours, or expensive overseas plane tickets away, distance is distance. The honest truth is: if you love each other enough, distance doesn't matter. You will make it work. That's not saying it's easy, but you keep trying and figure it out. Skype is wonderful, phone plans with long distance is wonderful. You have to make sure you still talk somehow - it's makes the gap feel like even less. You also have to be extremely trusting and understanding b/c the distance changes things that you'd expect from a "normal" relationship - like talking everyday and everything and nothing at the same time. You need to make sure you don't wander - though, I feel that you won't be tempted if he really is "the one." I never felt that way. I never "looked" and while it's ok to get crushes, you just don't do anything about them. I personally feel every relationship needs a period of LDR as a test to their commitment to each other. You have to make sure that you both stay true to yourselves as individuals in order to grow as a couple as well. Otherwise, that's when one person feels "trapped" and the other gets "clingy." Feel free to send me a PM if you have any questions or want more suggestions... It's totally do-able. We have seriously spent more time apart than we have together. How sad is that?*danihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11758477914935229602noreply@blogger.com